Monday, July 2, 2007

The Inlaws

I bet I could make an entire blog just to rant about my inlaws. Hmm now I wonder if there are blogs out there already devoted to this? Now that will give me something to do this afternoon while my scuba washes my kitchen floor.

Okay back to my topic/rant of the day. Saturday I was discussing with my husband the fact that we only have a few more weeks before our vacation to the states and that we need to plan a few things. My middle son will turn 8 on August 5th and in our church that means he will be baptized. We are choosing to do this at the inlaws because we were told since father in laws heart attack just a month ago he isn't up for a lot of travel. Fine we'll make this easier on them and do it there. There are arrangements that need to be made. We will have family from both sides coming and a few friends. This also means that we will need to feed these people afterwards. Can't really baptize your kid on a Sunday afternoon and then take everyone out to dinner. Well we COULD but probably not the first example we want to set in keeping those commandments like "keep the Sabbath Day Holy". Okay, so I decide that we should ask my sister in law if we can have a bbq or something at her home. My mother in law is a horrible cook as of late and the whole thing would stress her out and me out. Plus I've never done the dishes at her house and I am not going to start now - so I am NOT having a party at her house that I would have to clean up after.

So, we make these decisions and the hubby gets on the phone to make arrangements. He calls his parents several times, no answer. He calls his brother, no answer. His sister, NO ANSWER. Finally he tries his sister's cell phone. She answers and yes she knows where everyone is. Yes they are all together. And here comes the best part: they are at a family reunion celebrating hubby's grandmother's 90th birthday! HELLO! We didn't even have a clue. I know we are in England but don't you think this is something that you would mention? So Grandma is there with all 8 of her children, their spouses, their children from all over and nobody tells us a thing. The sick thing is that hubby turned down a free trip to Tucson last week. Had he known about this he would have taken the work trip and stayed 2 extra days and driven up to Salt Lake. The good thing is that he got to talk to his grandmother and wish her a happy birthday so we don't look totally worthless over here.

I married in to this family 14 1/2 years ago and I still can't figure them out. Actually I think I'm going to quit trying.

7 comments:

ciara said...

the less i deal w in-laws the better for me lol my x's mom was just the nosiest b word ever. she had no life of her own, so she had to get into ours. nothing worse than a mama's boy. now steve's parents are divorced as well. his mom has been remarried for quite awhile and his dad w the same lady for bout 15 yrs. they call once a month maybe...his dad prob a little more spread out than that. thing is, they let us live our own lives and i like it like that. but i do think that is the crappiest thing they did to your husband...why would they not tell him? i know i'm prob the daughter-in-law ppl like to hate, but as mel would say...does it look like i'm bovvered lol

p.s. i'm trying to get the hang of posting on the blog every other day or so...i'm a master procrastinator don't ya know lmao

Elle said...

Yeah I gave up on mine a long time ago. LOL same here, 14.5 years with those people YUCK!

MamaLee said...

OMG, sounds like my sister's inlaws. They leave their SON (my bil) out of everything.

I guess we can only do so much on our end. And I get along with my inlaws pretty well, although they treat ME better than they treat my husband, and HE is BLOOD.

Burns me.

Moving Mama said...

Um - they must have an in-laws convention where they train them how to leave out the part of the family that doesn't live within a 25 miles radius of the original homestead. I swear my MIL would forget to tell me if my FIL died. Or it would go something like this, "oh, by the way, dad died last week but I didn't want to bother you about it because there was really nothing you could do, and with you guys being so far away, well, you know..."

Amazed said...

I'm sorry. Love them anyway. Even when it's hard. It's part of what we are here on earth for. To become better at even the hard parts. To especially become better at the hard parts. Forgiveness is a powerful strength.
Just love them anyway because it will show your children how to love you in spite of.....

Christine said...

As much as I love my inlaws, I can't figure them out either. They treat my husband so differently than my SIL, and it really shows.

That is wrong. A family should include everyone, but I know what you mean.

sandierpastures said...

My in-laws are nice to me (for now). My own family is not nice to their son in-law a.k.a. my hubby!!