Saturday, November 27, 2010

New Friends

I am thankful for new friends. There is nothing like taking the leap and saying "hey let's go shopping" or whatever and then having a ton of fun. I am really bad at this. I think I overthink it too much and then in my head it turns in to something else. Yes - I am neurotic. OK, maybe that's a bit much but sometimes it seems to be true. Just the other day a friend on facebook mentioned she wanted to get out of the house and so I jumped and asked "where". Next thing you know she's on her way to pick me up and I am sitting her wondering - did she say yes because it's out there on facebook and she doesn't want people to think she's a jerk? These are the things that go through my head. Either way - we did go out, we shopped, we laughed, we had fun.

I am not sure what my hang up is about making friends. I have to REALLY set the goal. When we lived in England I made it a point to be social. I seriously told myself I was going to meet people. I was going to be different - and when I say this I really mean at church. I have made friends at the park. I have friends who are my neighbors. It's the church friends I suck at. So, in England I was different. There were even new families in the ward that would comment that I was the first person to welcome them at the door - I will admit I was probably just stalking someone to teach primary that day - but I would also immediately introduce myself and go on from there. I think when we moved back to Tucson I just fell back in to my old ways. I did move back in to a ward that I had already been in before. There were faces I recognized. Groups I knew I probably didn't fit in. So, the cycle continued.

I think I need to go back to being social. Jumping out there, introducing myself. It really is more fun and I could always use more friends.


kellie said...

I think many of us overanalyze people and situations, its the "please like me" complex. Although, I am fairly certain that I have either said the wrong thing to someone, or that I am just too crazy for them.
Today was so fun, I really enjoy chatting with you when I pick the kids up, and you add so much flavor to Facebook!
I also like that you are a very accepting person, and thats a pretty awesome thing!

Mindi said...

Well, I am glad that I have been able to become your friend! I know I have had very similar feelings like you have written about many times. I guess we are all hard on ourselves. I really tried to make it a goal to introduce myself to people when we moved to Tucson instead of waiting for them to introduce themselves to me. I still get very nervous doing this, but I've met some great people! Iagree with Kellie, I love reading your comments on FB. You have such a great personality!